Look at this Playa!

For my last conversation I clearly had more confidence and wasn’t so afraid of rejection, because throughout my life that’s one of my biggest fears, and girls aren’t afraid to turn you down. So I obviously rode this wave and used it to take me towards my final target. I went to a bar alone, (for the record I promised myself I would never be that guy) and with the knowledge I’ve gained over the past 9 days, the most important factor I picked up was that you never make it look like you’re searching for someone. Anyway after a beer or 2 I realized I had 45 minutes before a football game started so I had to get a move on. I spotted a girl with her friends at the bar. This is what scares me the most, because now I have to basically impress 4 girls and a guy. I walked over and said “Hey, I spotted you from my table over there, and not to be rude or anything, but would you mind leaving your mates for just a few minutes to join me?”

The guy she was with, being a guy, obviously wasn’t impressed but she agreed none the less. I will admit it wasn’t the smoothest of conversations but it wasn’t uncomfortable at all, we connected like a plug in a socket, it was amazing and she even gave me her number without me asking.

Positive Effects

These last few days have been an awesome experience, putting myself in unfamiliar territory has been such a refreshing experience. After last night I have a new bounce in my step. My confidence levels have shot through the roof.

The Terrible Trio

My mate calls me up today to inform me, that we’re going out to NYC club in Fourways, with another mate of ours. The Terrible Trio is what we call ourselves. Anyway I dressed up quite smart and proceeded with the “who’s going to drive” ching chong cha battle. I won, meaning I sit in the passenger seat (because I called shotgun), and get way hammered while the driver wears his sad face.

After about 2 and a half hours of walking around the place, checking out the women, and having tequila shots, I was feeling rather groovy. Now on a usual night at a party I count the possible ladies I have a chance with, come up with an excuse “I’m not drunk enough” about why not to talk to them as they appear in front of me, get drunk enough and then pussy out. But tonight is different, for the sake of my CDEV mark; I decide to be a man. The first girl I walk up to is very welcoming and chilled but after 5 minutes her boyfriend arrives. The second girl I spoke to was way out of my league, walking towards her reminded me of that night at Sandton city, she intimidated me from a far, and then smelt my nerves when I got closer. I introduced myself and asked her name, she was polite enough to reply, “I’m here to dance, not talk”, then made a swift exit with her friends. The third girl I spoke to, feeling a lot more drunk, was the highlight of my night. After introductions and a single drink, I had my tongue down her throat exchanging spit like it was a means of survival. I left that club with a smile on my face. Now don’t get me wrong I’ve been with many girls in the past but every time I get with a new girl, I reach the same level of enjoyment.

Unexpected Convo

Today I was sitting on the couch with my dog Pepsi. It was one of those lazy days where I watch the first half of like 8 different movies. My parents had invited guests over, probably one of their 420 cousins. Anyway I hate having guests over, I usually go say hello and go back to the TV or my room. This time I decided to sit with everyone and partake in this activity of conversation, luckily I had my folks around. They asked about my degree and I had to explain that a copywriter is not some bloke who copyrights things. They went on telling me about their children achieving 8 and 7 A’s in matric exams, which my parents will use against me in our next argument of course. Then after my 6^th scone I politely removed myself from the lounge and went upstairs to cause havoc on Grand Theft Auto 5.

A Second Stab

Today I decided to give my ex girlfriend a call. You could say this is cheating but I haven’t spoken to her in  3 years and I don’t know about you but I find talking over a cell phone way more pressurizing than in person cause in person there will be moments of silence that are natural. On the phone there’s no room for silent moments, you got to be on the ball constantly.

Anyway this convo went a lot smoother than yesterday. We spoke about our lives and what has changed since our last encounter, which was very interesting. She is a very talkative person so I didn’t really feel the pressure of keeping a flow, she made it very comfortable. The best part was that she is single haha. Not that I have been missing her and want her back, just the fact that there’s not some dick in her life with some kind of dick head pet name for her.

I get by with a little help from my friends said Joe Cocker

I asked a few mates for some advice and put them in my own words:

1.     Start the conversation immediately – Don’t drag things on. A missed chance offers much regret.

2.     Avoid cheesy pick up lines – Like “Hey baby are those space pants? Cause that ass is out of this world.” About 4 of 250 girls would be interested. Rather use immediate environment.

3.     Flirt with her from the get go – Don’t risk being put into the friend zone, you have enough friends.

4.     Be Real! Give your opinion even if it differs from hers – Women like men with a backbone.

5.     Give compliments sparingly – Be mysterious and don’t put yourself in her pocket.